Okay, you probably believe that your best friend being your worst enemy sounds like an oxy-moron. It’s not, in fact it makes a lot of sense. When you’re on the autistic spectrum friends are optional, because you don’t need them. In my experience, If you have a friend they’re also your enemy. This isn’t always true and doesn’t apply to every friendship I’ve had, but it does apply to the majority of them.
How can your friend with Aspergers or High Functioning Autism also be your enemy? Because it is the way it is. You are blunt with each other and know one another’s weaknesses. You are both impulsive and both think you’re right on a topic, even if you aren’t. You both aren’t fully aware of how certain things affect other things, because you don’t stop to think.
This is one reason people with Aspergers / HFA do not need friends or scare all their friends away. I would like to live miles away from society on a farm, yet I’m very sociable or I pretend to be. It’s the same with friends, you have a lot of friends or you appear to have a lot of friends. In your mind none of those people are your friends and a lot of them are your enemy.
You usually have one or two friends, and those friends can instantly become your enemy and Vica versa. Neither of you plan to become each others enemy , because you’re great friends. Thanks to our lack of understanding social skills and social cues we run into a lot of verbal misunderstandings and everything goes downhill from there. The odd thing about being friends and enemies is how quickly you become friends again. You are usually friends in about 30 minutes to two hours after a fight, but one fight I had would’ve ended a ten year friendship. I wrote my friend off for a week or two and would’ve never spoken to him again if my Mom hadn’t encouraged me too. Even when we did speak we argued for an hour and then argued in text for days. Things got smoothed over, but his wife was of no help… In fact she was a big reason we got into the fight.
He did what she wanted and he acted differently, because she told him too. This was out of character for him. His wife controlling him infuriated me. I decided he was compromised and I didn’t want to be friends with someone who is compromised. I wrote him off for a week or so before I called him. If I hadn’t called him, we wouldn’t still be friends.
If you have an Autistic friend or your autistic always remember that your friend is also your enemy.
Please note that these are from my personal experiences and not from any studies.