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Dangers of Santa Claus — he’s a stranger and evil!

Santa Claus is someone children are told about when they’re very tiny and told that he is always watching whatever they do, so he knows if they’re naughty or nice. Yet when I hear parents warn their children against strangers they don’t seem to see the conflict between the two tales.   First of all 7 billion people is too many for one old man to watch or even an army of elves to watch and secondly there is a very warped and sick side of the tale that parents seem to ignore.

Santa Claus is a stranger and if he was actually always watching everyone he is a pervert and a criminal, however he doesn’t exist. Parents try their hardest to warn children about strangers, yet they tell them tales like this and act like it is real. Even NORAD plays along and has a Santa tracker, so what are parents accidentally teaching their children? That it’s okay for at least one stranger to always be watching you no matter what you do, because he gives you presents if you’re good. That isn’t what you want to teach your children because it’s wrong. It’s sick in the head wrong. Why am I the only one that sees this???

I know that it is very logical thinking that leads to such a conclusion, however Santa is not logical. If Santa was real they would have people staying up all night watching for Santa to kill him, not because it would be amazing to see him. I understand that Santa stems from Saint Nicholas hundreds of years ago and how he really did make toys for children, however I don’t believe even he would be okay with this story. Please think about what you teach your children!

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Little Professor Syndrome & Echolalia s an adult

“Little Professor Syndrome” is a reference to the ability that children with aspergers have to quote things that they shouldn’t be able to remember or even know. Once you hear something you know it and you can talk as if you are an expert on the subject. As an adult this ability gets slightly annoying, because I am an actual expert on a subject. I spend so much time researching it and working for my clients that I know it inside and out. Unfortunately it seems that I can’t go anywhere that requires the smallest amount of knowledge without people thinking that I work there.

 

I doubt that I am the only one with this problem. I don’t have echolalia in the form that most people would think rather I am able to restructure what I read or hear and put it into an intelligent form that fits  the situation without even thinking about what I am doin. While this masks my Aspergers at the same time it’s annoying. People start asking me questions about things I haven’t read about, however it usually is simple deduction or pointing to a sign to provide them with the accurate information. I do read a lot, but there are reasons for that.

I am unsure what you call this or how others handle this besides telling people that they’re mistakened and that I don’t work at the facility. On another note you may notice this blog is becoming a bit sparse with updates. This is due to my fear of being unmasked and quite honestly it is a valid fear. Each time I write a blog post the probability that you’ve read or seen my work increases exponentially. I am not sure if I should abandon this blog or let others to continue writing on it so their information will continue to be distributed.

I’d appreciate your opinions and feedback either in the comments or via email.

Disclaimer: I’d like to point out that I officially have PDD NOS, however I identify with those who have Aspergers and I write about aspie issues, so I use the word Aspergers on this blog.Nothing on this blog, comments, or via email should be taken as advice and you should consult a licensed professional before doing anything you read before making any changes to your life. This blog is written by a bloak sharing experiences and doesn’t have any licenses and is not a professional in Aspergers.

Aspergers and press interviews — don’t meltdown

Some of us with aspergers are quite bright in certain areas and some of us interact with the press, because they want to know what we’re doing in our work. I am one of those people, so I want to regale you with a few tips on interviews with the press while being on the Asperger spectrum.

The first thing is don’t have a meltdown, sure a ton of people yelling questions, pointing cameras, microphones and other objects towards you while live streaming everything to the entire world is stressful. What makes something like that even more stressful is when a problem in your presentation happens and you have to fix it while the entire world and impatient reporters watch and may even make comments.
The second and one of the most important things is to always keep eye contact with reporters. Yes, it’s important to keep eye contact with everyone, but reporters are extremely important to keep eye contact with, since some of them will write down everything you do and others have cameras. If you break eye contact at the wrong moment this could be rude and have negative consequences in their writing.

One thing that I am not great at is how to tell the press when enough is enough, so I just start talking to another reporter in hopes that the ones bothering me will leave. While this is most likely considered rude, I had enough reporters around me to make up several football teams, so it didn’t come out negative.

Am I trying to brag by talking about how to handle the press? No, not at all. I’ve seen people on TV who clearly have aspergers or even say they do and they totally mess up the interviews, thus giving their company bad press. So, I thought this might be useful for those of us who do have to work with the press.

Another thing that is important is giving the press plenty of respect and remember that they will use tricks to try and get you to disclose information that you don’t want disclosed. I can count the number of reporters I will give a sit down interview with on one hand, because my rule is to only give one on one interviews with people who are ethical and will do a great job at reporting. Everyone else can just shout questions at me or if they’re big enough I’ll grant them a phone interview.

By doing this you are removing a ton of stress, because in sit down interviews eye contact is key as is being extremely polite, friendly and pretty “normal”. If I do a press release and am finished with the press and they’re still following me I will brush them aside and while this is rude they need to get the point that I am done. I am not an expert at dealing with the press, far from it. My first time working with the press on a large scale was recently, but boy did I learn a lot. Also, if you take medicine make sure you take yours before doing a press release. I know I wanted to melt down and even cancel the press release more then once, but everyone from everywhere important was watching me, so I couldn’t meltdown even though my mind was screaming to do so.

Instead of melting down I went to a place that was quiet and hung out with friends afterwards and then went and relaxed in my hotel room for a couple hours to recover from the exhaustion my mind took from not melting down, remembering eye contact, being polite, and staying level-headed while the entire world watched my presentation mess up and I had to fix   it.

If you are one of the aspies who is smart enough to get the attention of the press, then I sure hope this helps you. Also, when they ask the same question 20 times you have to give them the same answer 20 times. If you give them a different answer once out of those 20 times then you may have just totally botched the interview.  Oh, one thing I forgot to do was say my name and my company at the beginning of the interview, since I rarely say my name and I notice others do the same thing. That did botch up one important article, but it was a good lesson. I only did as well as I did because I had some training before the interview to avoid messing up, however that didn’t prepare me for the aspie side of it.  I hope all of this advice helps you!

Autism Life And Virtual Reality Day 4 of Day 30

I had an interesting experience today when using virtual reality. I certainly believe virtual reality headsets like Oculus Rift and Augmented Reality like Google Glass will cause new problems for people with special needs, including people with autism. They also show a great deal of potential to help people with special needs by making programs that give them scenarios they would encounter in the real world and try to figure out what emotion the person has in the virtual world.

I spent most of the day on my autistic focus, obsession, gift, whatever you want to call it. I’ve found the best way to deal with it is by having multiple projects running at one time, so I put 100 percent into each one but jump between them, so I don’t get too obsessed. It’s my attempt at being normal and not losing my mind by just having one project I am obsessing on.

I don’t have any great advice today, but maybe I will tomorrow.

My 30 day challenge: Writing about the life on the Autistic Spectrum

So, I’ve started a new 30 day challenge. I will finish a day and then write about the parts of my day that were possibly autistic related and the challenges I faced for the next 30 days. As it says in my about me I am diagnosed with P.D.D NOS, but nonetheless this will be a very interesting experiment, especially if I can complete it. I have some especially interesting posts coming later this summer too.

Asperger Whisperer Email Experiences & Trust issues

Opening myself up to respond to people via email has been an interesting experiment. As you may be able to tell, I like to write things down, but giving advice on this subject…. well, as I always say in my emails I have no certification and you should ask someone who does.

a couple emails I didn’t know how to reply to very well. I I can talk about them without exposing any sensitive or confidential information.

One email was asking how to tell someone they had been diagnosed with high functioning autism. I honestly have no answer to that, so my best advice was to talk to experts who know the person and figure out what fits that person the best. Another email seemed like a straightforward communication problem with someone who has high functioning autism not conveying something to someone else. That is so normal that my friends and I have a system worked out for that. Once I was very angry at one of my friends and had no problem telling his wife exactly what I thought of him. She had no problem telling me how I was wrong. When I saw him we talked and I explained what happened without ever talking about the issue exactly and we’re doing great.

I am very sensitive when it comes to trust. If I feel someone has betrayed me even the slightest, I get quite upset. I used to take two years before I would even decide if I liked someone, but that took far too long, so I’ve sped up the process by talking to friends and getting a “gut feeling” about the person. I don’t have an innate gut feeling, rather I’ve developed one via the help of many people, including my parents, friends, and people I work with who ask me what my gut says. I should go into trust at length in another post.

When Asperger Communication Fails

Have you ever thought you told someone something? That happens to everyone, but some people on the spectrum act like and some think that people can read their mind, so they react negatively if something doesn’t happen. This can cause a lot of problems, it can cause the person you think you told something to be confused as to your behavior and it can slow down your productivity.

Whether we like it or not we are currently stuck with verbal and written communication, so we have to try and convey what we are thinking via one of those two mediums. Well, if you count sign language then I guess we have three mediums, although not everyone knows sign language.

Communication is key to almost everything, but it isn’t easy. It takes a lot of work to remember to communicate effectively with people and have a positive response when communicating with people. Sometimes you have to not be blunt and try to think how regular people will respond to a message. Trust me, it is a daunting task for quite awhile but it is an area of communication I am getting much better at.

If someone on the spectrum seems angry at you, perhaps they misunderstood something you said or thought they told you something that they actually forgot to say. Failure in communication on the autistic spectrum is normal, but it doesn’t appear easy for others to deal with.